Most people choose to support or oppose something based on here-say or the opinions of those around them that they have high regard for. Most people will only take a position that keeps them safe, one that makes them feel good, and one that meets the least resistance.
Here’s a challenge.
Rather than finding articles, videos, and testimonials to validate what you want to believe- jump into the heart of the conflict.
Abortion? Go to a pro-life -and- a pro-choice rally. Observe the people there, listen to what they say when surrounded by people they can speak freely around. Ask if they hate anyone. Ask why they take their position.
Gay “marriage”? Same thing. Go to a march for marriage then go to a gay right’s march (I recommend bringing an umbrella). Observe the people. Observe the behavior, read their signs. Talk to them. “Do you hate gays/those that oppose your redefinition of marriage? Do you want to see anyone silenced?”
You can get honest, unfiltered information when people are among like minded individuals. I go to rallies at the capital all the time and I ask as many questions as I can from a variety of people. The most recent was a gun rally.
If you are going to take a position based off what people will think of you, because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, or because it makes you feel validated then you are fighting for all the wrong reasons. The right thing is never the easy thing. People hate being called out. But of you are more afraid of people than you are of the highest authority, you have a problem.